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Forest Path

How to choose a spiritual director

A prayerful search is a good beginning. Most directors are happy to schedule an introductory session to see if the relationship feels like a good fit. It's important that you feel heard and comfortable and that your spiritual director reflects a good balance of faith, knowledge and wisdom. Some questions to consider as you reflect:

Do I have any preferences as far as gender, church affiliation or life experience? How far am I willing to drive for monthly sessions? Would I prefer to talk to someone from my own faith tradition or would a different perspective be refreshing?


Spiritual directors are trained listeners who commit to the confidentiality of their directees. This offers freedom to speak openly and honestly about your life situations, doubts and questions in a safe setting. You are free to share with others whatever you like about spiritual direction. Your director will respect your confidentiality.

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Your role in the process

It's helpful if you can articulate what brings you to spiritual direction. What are you looking for? Your spiritual director may encourage you to pay attention to your life and look for ways God might be speaking. Your role in between sessions is to be attentive and open, seeking God on your own through prayer and in response to the Spirit's invitations.

Listen to your life

Pay attention to the new things God is doing in and around you. Notice scriptures that resonate with you. Watch for things that feel like invitations. Be still. Seek moments of solitude. Listen.


"Be alert, be present. I'm about to do something brand-new. It's bursting out! Don't you see it? There it is! I'm making a road through the desert, rivers in the badlands."  Isaiah 43:19

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